Specifically, women boobs. No, not “man boobs,” commonly associated with overweight men or “manboobz” as in the derogatory term associated with a male feminist, or the former name of this fantastic blog.
Nope, I’m talking about this boob right here, and the millions like it all around the world.
I can hear the outrage now.
“How could you post that picture without so much as even a warning?”
“Is it really so much to ask women to cover up when doing that in public?”
“Why can’t they do it in the bathroom? Somewhere private? My kids don’t need to see that!”
“Breastfeeding just makes me uncomfortable. Mothers should be more considerate of the feelings of other people around them.”
If you have those thoughts or similar ones, I’m going to make this perfectly clear:
I do not give a fuck. Not a single one.
And here is why: I spoke with a woman who recently became a mother, and she was willing to share some of her experience with me.
R: The funny thing is, I used to be one of those narrow-minded people. When I was pregnant, I knew I wanted to breastfeed, but in my life I’d only seen breastfeeding last a couple months, tops. I thought that was how it was: You breastfed for a couple months and then switched to formula.
I kept saying that I would never nurse in public, and that if I did I would certainly cover up because it ‘wasn’t appropriate.’
Soubrette: I don’t have children, so I thought people mostly switched for comfort reasons. I hear breastfeeding can be very uncomfortable sometimes.
R: Yes! But no one had ever explained that to me. The only thing I ever heard was ‘It’s just time we switched,’ so I had no idea!
S: So what made you change your mind?
R: But something happened when Noah was born where I looked at my body differently. My boobs weren’t sexual objects anymore they were for nourishing my son. And for the first few months I didn’t live my life the way I wanted because of being afraid to NIP (Nurse In Public)Sure I could have taken bottles because I had a lot of milk stored then. But I didn’t want to because that meant missing that time I had nursing himSo I just stayed in.But with a lot of support of other moms and my husband (shocking to most), I just did it one day and never felt more liberated.I had a little girl come up to me and ask “what’s he doing” and I told her “he’s just eating” and she looked at her mom who was smiling and said”mommy he looks so cute he’s eating!” And that just did it for me.
Boobs are all around us. Boobs are part of daily life. Boobs are used to promote and sell everything from sports, movies, comics, video games, cars, even freaking fast food. Someone can be okay with their wife/girlfriend prancing around in a bikini and it’s “sexy” or “bragging rights.” Guys repeatedly fantasize and go on about how they would like to bury their faces in a nice pair of breasts.
But the minute you fill those ta-tas with milk and let a kid feed on them, that lady needs to cover up or do it in the bathroom because ohmygoshthisissonotappropriate people can SEE you! Sorry folks, but you can’t have it both ways.
If you want or are accepting of this:
But have a problem with this:
Then you really need to check yourself, because there’s a gaping hole in your logic.
Breastfeeding in public is not the problem.
YOU are the problem. So instead of telling a nursing mom to go “do that in the bathroom,” why don’t you take your dinner in there and, while you’re at it, work on fixing your complete inability to cope with biological functions?